light view of death in heavy times

have you ever felt that you are graded as being insensitive by your fellow human beings as being insensitive or heartless just because you take death in a lighter note than them?

i just had and the feeling really sucked especially when your intention and starting point was really good to begin with.
all i said was since i am free this evening,why not attend the wake and show some moral support.
the aunties had to reply 'how can you say such things one? what free so i attend.' in a rather distasteful and irritable sacarastic tone.
the rest of the day i felt really down and rather isolated from the rest of the world.
but i realise my view on death and the feeling that we should symphatise overly on the family.
humans tend to live on the comfort that others provide.
they are not disabled. just in mourning. thats why we shouldnt treat them as a fragile china doll but instead as a equal human being just in need of company and a little comfort to feel the love going on around them.
maybe its myself, maybe its the enviroment i live in.
maybe its the perspective of the general public versus me.
i'll chew on this and in the meantime so should you. ;)

peace